Why to teach – almost always bad? Why do people give out their irritation for good action, teaching strangers for no special reason?

The emptying of your dislike for your neighbor, incontinence, projection?

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  1. But the word “teaching” practically does not give a chance of a positive perception of the “teaching” situation. We look at Ushakov’s Explanatory Dictionary: 1) To teach something, to teach some teaching (book. Rhetor. 2) speak with someone in an instructive tone, with confidence in their superiority (def. Iron.). So it is hardly surprised that people are annoyed when they are taught and reacted in the spirit of Pinocchio: “Teach you better than yours!” . And why are people trying to teach their neighbors? Often – I agree with other authors – it is with the unconscious purpose of self -affirmation, because the status of the one who teaches is always higher than the status of the one he is taught. But what is interesting – it often happens that the teaching really wants good to the one whom he teaches. And I’m sure that he does not teach, but teaches, not understanding: the form in which he does this comes to nullifies all his efforts (and in some cases he harms the object of teaching – if he suffers his irritation on the subject of the conversation). And it is worth mentioning the situations when one person teaches (does not teach), and the other, for some reason, perceives everything that he hears as an teaching. Parents of adolescents sometimes face a similar one.

  2. Sometimes people themselves do not notice this … What are they teaching.? .. Almost always? .. I personally cannot check and evaluate all the situations. This does not follow from the concept of itself. I believe that often. But “almost always”? I doubt. It is unlikely that in this case such behavior would be considered socially acceptable. And then, for whom it is bad? Even if you accept your next thesis: people give their irritation for a good action – although I experience some difficulties in understanding it – irritation could theoretically lead to significantly. more sad consequences; It is possible that for at least one of the participants, the teaching turned out to be the best of the possible options. Otherwise, a heart attack, conflict, breaking, parting forever, renunciation of the throne … do you have enough. What, do you think that people initially own the whole range of behavior options? It is unpleasant, I agree. They didn’t beat.
    Not fired. They did not go to play another sandbox. You write yourself: “For no special reason.” That is, as it were, you mean the presence of such reasons in some cases. For my part, I can accept the moral norm “not to teach anyone.” Or try not to learn from practical reasons. It is unpleasant for me – and others, respectively, most likely – but I do not want to be unpleasant. However, will I always succeed? The very existence of such a norm means – it is for me that the corresponding behavior is not realized automatically. Since I needed to accept it. Otherwise, I would simply not steam on this topic. And if I had not been soared, all the more unknown whether I teach LIC. It may seem that not. Like others. Figures were not hired to track my teachings. Only when it is unpleasant for them – they can notice what they react to. And being kind and smart, they can tell me – if they want … the mistake of the “surviving”;)

  3. Sometimes people themselves do not notice this … What are they teaching.? .. Almost always? .. I personally cannot check and evaluate all the situations. This does not follow from the concept of itself. I believe that often. But “almost always”? I doubt. It is unlikely that in this case such behavior would be considered socially acceptable. And then, for whom it is bad? Even if you accept your next thesis: people give their irritation for a good action – although I experience some difficulties in understanding it – irritation could theoretically lead to significantly. more sad consequences; It is possible that for at least one of the participants, the teaching turned out to be the best of the possible options. Otherwise, a heart attack, conflict, breaking, parting forever, renunciation of the throne … do you have enough. What, do you think that people initially own the whole range of behavior options? It is unpleasant, I agree. They didn’t beat.
    Not fired. They did not go to play another sandbox. You write yourself: “For no special reason.” That is, as it were, you mean the presence of such reasons in some cases. For my part, I can accept the moral norm “not to teach anyone.” Or try not to learn from practical reasons. It is unpleasant for me – and others, respectively, most likely – but I do not want to be unpleasant. However, will I always succeed? The very existence of such a norm means – it is for me that the corresponding behavior is not realized automatically. Since I needed to accept it. Otherwise, I would simply not steam on this topic. And if I had not been soared, all the more unknown whether I teach LIC. It may seem that not. Like others. Figures were not hired to track my teachings. Only when it is unpleasant for them – they can notice what they react to. And being kind and smart, they can tell me – if they want … the mistake of the “surviving”;)

  4. Without going into the analysis of the behavior of the “teaching”, I want to note that in such a situation, “teaching” will not learn anything. Even if, “teaching” will say true and useful words. Negative emotion blocks an objective perception. Only the local self -affirmation of the “teaching” is being used, and in a way that ultimately harms him. (The usual error of neophytes.) The result: not one of the participants in such an interaction reaches at least some personal benefit.

  5. There are different types of people, and this one is talking about – this is a person who feels himself constantly important (an important person, in other words a rapist). He considers himself and feels right in everything, but everyone else is not. There is his opinion and it is right -handed and those who disagree with him it is wrong. These are precisely such people very important, inflate the cheeks, impeating their heads, they teach everyone, they are annoyed on those when they disagree with them. A person is on the role of an important person (aggressor, sadist), he always seeks himself who can be suppressed, humiliated, put people to a position below himself, and teach. That is, with such a behavior, he invites others to the role of a knowledgeable and insignificant, to the role of a victim, which under his onslaught either idolizes him or shakes with fear. It is this type of people who gives his thoughts, advice, actions for the good. In other words, these people are looking for a victim. Interaction with a person who is glad to be on the role of the victim fills the self -esteem of such people, this gives them a certain power and confirms their significance. This is, you can not go out with him to the role for which he invites them either to land them, or not to interact at all at all with them.

  6. Even if we replace the word “teach” with “help, prompt” – there is still a question: why do a person do this? Why is it so important to teach others without request? This usually happens due to the fact that the teaching person puts himself above others and/or believes that it is easier to give advice than focusing on his own life

  7. This is really a projection. By teaching, a person, he believes, saves the teaching of vice. But the point is that the “instructor” itself is subject to vice. This is an attempt not to save, but to get rid. Here the vice itself is important, the flaw that the instructor faces. He is not ready to recognize the side of himself, it is annoyed. The reasons “here and now” are not important to him, since the instigator has its own causes of the generation of vice “then and there.” And outsiders are only a mirror …

  8. Because teaching, unlike learning, is not so much the transfer of experience as a demonstration of its high position, and your low. The position of an adult in relation to the child, or the boss, in relation to the subordinate. I have a temple under my windows. And with him, the Popa-Batyushka fan club is tied, consisting of local old women. The old women are mainly lonely, who have not succeeded in either personal or professional activities. But, suddenly, found themselves in the “spiritual”! With what enthusiasm and aggression they strive to teach every layman who ended up inside the temple, or in his vicinity … they received the desired power. Rather, they endowed it with it. And they use this power ugly … not even realizing that by their behavior they turn people from both the temple and from God …

  9. Firstly, to teach, to teach for no reason and be annoyed – 3 completely different concepts. Why is it bad to be annoyed in any case, I will not explain. For the teaching for no reason. It is not always unambiguous whether there is a reason. For example, parents often teach children for reason, but it may seem that this is not so. I consider it normal to express their opinion in unambiguous terms: “If you run this project, you can face such risks” and abnormal imposition of your point vision: “You do not need to run this project. Well, will you launch this project or not? Why did you run, because I said that you don’t need? Stop. No, stop. No, you are wrong that I did not substantiate enough, You don’t understand, but I understand, you have to do what I say. Well, so, will you stop the project? ”

  10. What is wrong with teachings? All their lives, adults have taught children. Teachers – students. The wise – ethnic ones. Taking into any field, we are designed to learn this wisdom. One, for example, of the best Christian textbooks, is called the “heart -the -rope teachings of Abba Dorotheus.” We are neglecting the teachings of wisdom, we are unreasonable and proud.

  11. As I noticed, for example, grandmas condemning girls dressed defiantly, they were annealed in her youth, be healthy. Subjected from alcohol, often extremely negatively configured to the drunk. Then 3 years, I was distorted even from its smell. I think this is a reaction to my negative experience, which becomes a reflection-process.

  12. There is a certain group of people, most often these are priests, teachers and others who consider themselves possible to make a comment to people, and teach them. A real intellectual and a well -mannered person does not, realizing that this is not ethical. “Never to explain anything to anyone. Anyone who does not want to listen, will not hear and not believe, but the one who believes and understands is not … Read more

  13. A person does not think how others perceive him, he thinks about how he manifests himself, realizes.
    Suppose a person speaks well about his generation and the now absent USSR, while pouring mud and criticize the current generation of youth, children and adolescents.
    A person does not think that you feel, he only thinks about how he will be understood in his immediate environment, with whom he has … Read more

  14. If a person is taught without his consent, this is tantamount to violence, just one consciousness wants to longitage over the consciousness of another personality, and everything is as always with good intentions. The reason for such desires lies in ignorance of their true nature, as well as a small practical experience of working on oneself. There are many answers to these questions, it was possible to find in the series video “Psychology … Read more

  15. Destruction! Answering this question, I accordingly focus on my personal understanding of this circumstance. Answer: In fact, it is common for a person, to advise, prompt, teach, sometimes even in the form of instruction, but with kind, pure intentions and just like that with all my heart. And it is not necessary to be asked about it, but at the call of his heart. Enough … Read more

  16. Nuuu, the topic is deep. They heard about evolution? This is about the same. The law of “struggle of conditional information/orders/pictures of the world/worldviews” is called. At the genetic level, one of the conditional information won. DNA of living creatures is the same))). But there is no single order at the social level yet.)))

  17. By the fact that you are you … yes! It cannot be otherwise, in the morning this power engineer, even instead of breakfast, and look at it all day! You understand that you can’t! Stop it immediately! I hear I’m not joking!. From this statement, we can make only one conclusion, a person is rather amazed by himself personally, exorbitant thrust, to the consumption of this particular drink … Read more

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