What to do if it brings me moral suffering of washing dishes?

I do not exaggerate when I say “suffering”, I really feel bad and I want it to end as soon as possible. This is similar to the feeling that arises when you are very sick or it hurts very much, you don’t know when it ends, you can’t do anything to stop it, but you also want to end quickly, and all the time you think “how much” Still, your mother, you can. ” At first I washed it immediately after use, but then it was created that I was endlessly mine, like in some hell, as if she had not ended. I just washed, I have time to go, I ate, again fidgeted dishes. Then she just began to accumulate in my 2 days, and I had nothing to eat from. I went to wash it, and after washing I already didn’t need this food, I only wanted to die. It also turned out that I spent the whole half -day of my life on washing dishes, instead of living. Now, in general, I have been postponing food eating for 4 days, because I have ended all the dishes, there is nothing to cook from, but I don’t want to suffer again. Before that, I put off 2 days 3 times. Because of this dishes, I have no mood at all and I don’t want to do anything, I sit all the time and look forward to her washing.

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  1. I don’t know why I was invited to answer this question. I don’t bother about dishes. He ate, washed, forgot. But the last phrase I have no mood at all because of this dishes and I don’t want to do anything, I sit all the time and look forward to it. I got my attention. “I look forward to” – this is when you imagine something tasty that you will absorb with extraordinary pleasure. And here – washing dishes. But at the same time you really suffer, not enjoy. Therefore, I make a conclusion, the sadist and masochist are in one bottle – in your head. You want to suffer, and you successfully fulfill this desire. Well, well, in a good way! Happy swimming! A successful meeting with the iceberg! Titanic suffering!

  2. I did not think that not one of the previous 16 answers would suit me, but I did not see a deep analysis of the situation in them. You write the following: if you wash the dishes immediately after use, I washed it up, I washed the time to eat; if the dishes are accumulated in 2 days, It’s spending half a day on her washing. I don’t know why everyone who answers ignored this, they probably considered it an exaggeration. But for me, the picture becomes more clear if you perceive your words literally: you spend a wild amount of time on washing dishes. In general, you can wash at least three irrevocable plates in a minute (I just put an experiment just). And between meals passes 3-4 hours. Even if you exaggerate, then not much. The assumption that you wash it to a mirror shine and getting off the skin from your fingers. Perhaps this is an option of obsessive-compulsive disorder. And for sure this is applied not only to dishes, but everything else does not particularly bother you, but the dishes are special pain. It is possible, it is washing the dishes that you have a psycho -trauma, and therefore it causes a special, sickening disgust. But most likely this is due to this The fact that you eat from the dishes, and you have some kind of special attitude to everything that comes to your mouth. Therefore, the dishes should be polished to shine. This version is confirmed by the fact that you cannot eat from dirty dishes. Ready to starve, if only not to eat from dirty dishes. You do not allow any repeated use of dishes. And disgust for washing dishes may be the result of the fact that you perceive the remnants of food on it as something extremely nasty. Therefore, after washing a two-day dishes, after a long contact with dirt, you only wanted to die. Now I have been putting off meals for 4 days, because I have all the dishes … I can’t eat an apple or a sandwich. Additional questions and assumptions arise on this occasion, but this is already necessary to find out. What to do? Of course, contact a specialist – psychologist, psychiatrist, psychotherapist. I consider the purchase of a dishwasher as a humorous. It is very, very unlikely that this will solve the problem, if only because at first you will still contact with food residues, because the dishes should be devastated before installed in the car. And then you can also stay unhappy with the result. So contact a specialist right today. When time is not spent on food, there are a lot of it, I know this from my experience of starvation. So use this time right today: choose a specialist and contact him. What else stops you?

  3. I did not think that not one of the previous 16 answers would suit me, but I did not see a deep analysis of the situation in them. You write the following: if you wash the dishes immediately after use, I washed it up, I washed the time to eat; if the dishes are accumulated in 2 days, It’s spending half a day on her washing. I don’t know why everyone who answers ignored this, they probably considered it an exaggeration. But for me, the picture becomes more clear if you perceive your words literally: you spend a wild amount of time on washing dishes. In general, you can wash at least three irrevocable plates in a minute (I just put an experiment just). And between meals passes 3-4 hours. Even if you exaggerate, then not much. The assumption that you wash it to a mirror shine and getting off the skin from your fingers. Perhaps this is an option of obsessive-compulsive disorder. And for sure this is applied not only to dishes, but everything else does not particularly bother you, but the dishes are special pain. It is possible, it is washing the dishes that you have a psycho -trauma, and therefore it causes a special, sickening disgust. But most likely this is due to this The fact that you eat from the dishes, and you have some kind of special attitude to everything that comes to your mouth. Therefore, the dishes should be polished to shine. This version is confirmed by the fact that you cannot eat from dirty dishes. Ready to starve, if only not to eat from dirty dishes. You do not allow any repeated use of dishes. And disgust for washing dishes may be the result of the fact that you perceive the remnants of food on it as something extremely nasty. Therefore, after washing a two-day dishes, after a long contact with dirt, you only wanted to die. Now I have been putting off meals for 4 days, because I have all the dishes … I can’t eat an apple or a sandwich. Additional questions and assumptions arise on this occasion, but this is already necessary to find out. What to do? Of course, contact a specialist – psychologist, psychiatrist, psychotherapist. I consider the purchase of a dishwasher as a humorous. It is very, very unlikely that this will solve the problem, if only because at first you will still contact with food residues, because the dishes should be devastated before installed in the car. And then you can also stay unhappy with the result. So contact a specialist right today. When time is not spent on food, there are a lot of it, I know this from my experience of starvation. So use this time right today: choose a specialist and contact him. What else stops you?

  4. I would personally invite guests and changed the job. And then I would have gone to live with friends, if there was someone to leave the house. For myself, I am a supporter of radical solutions. Suddenly I can decide that it is already “time” and “trust the sign.” Leave in Ashram. Go into the forest. Finally follow your path of the heart. At first glance, there is no need to act radically. If you yourself suddenly do not think so. Just dishes … Some four days without food … True, I doubt that you do not eat only from the dishes. You can eat a sandwich. And it is unlikely that this thought did not visit you. In any case, the food is not the main thing here. And the dishes are also. What is the main thing? Perhaps it is worth looking for an answer to this question with a psychologist or psychotherapist. Use your motivation. Clothing word is to use it. On the very herself. You continue to suffer when you do not wash. You are unpleasant that you cannot force yourself. Presumably. Here I agree with Evgeny Yakovlev – and do not. You have every right not to wash it at all. And do not eat, by the way, too. You are a free person. At least in relation to food and utensils. The dishes are not important. The rejection of “its endless washing” is also not important. Where is it more important than your adoption of yourself. Accepting your rejection. You do not need to suffer also about the fact that you are not washing it. Vice versa. You should use this rejection.
    As a resource. Practical advice has already been given to you, here I will not be original. The only thing is to add an option of what to do with the feeling of infinity. In case you still wash it. You can set the time. Suppose at 7:00 you start washing, and strictly finish at 7:45. No matter how much washed. The rest of the day you try not to wash anything. And do not wash.
    Unless with a strong desire.

  5. Hello. If we are not talking about washing ten pots, twenty plates and fifty forks and spoons at a time, then the problem is not in a large load, but in the fact itself. To some people, the need to get out of bed to celebrate the need, to wash, inflicts suffering or seems pointless, and they do not wash, go for themselves. I think that it really makes sense to contact a psychotherapist. And about the dishes – leave yourself one plate, spoon, fork – in general, the minimum of everything. And wash immediately after eating. Without any emotions. The process of washing dishes does not need to be endowed with extraneous emotions. Just on automatism, unemotionally form a habit.

  6. To answer this question, you need to understand what you want instead? And only dishes causes these moral suffering or is it a common situation in life? Our attitude gives rise to our reactions. If you want to cope with the attitude to washing, see from where such a perception is from and deal with it. There are people who enjoy this process. The difference is only in perception. The dishes themselves do not affect this :)) If I just do not want to wash the dishes, then the civilization came up with a decent solution 🙂

  7. 1) Buy a portable dishwasy 2) order ready -made food in disposable containers -these were obvious answers to the question. Nevertheless, there are non -obvious. Refusal to take food is interesting. The eternal repetition of something dirty, which would “soon end”, is even more interesting. The most interesting thing is, what happens to the food “on the other side of the plate” that hides the toilet/secret room. If it becomes so bad, and all the obvious answers that they piled here do not help, it is better to contact a specialist.

  8. Good afternoon. In the future, plan to buy a dishwasher. They are small. In the meantime … Buy a lot of disposable inexpensive dishes – they ate and threw it away) it can even be very pretty. Cups with handles, colored plates. It seemed to me that you have not yet got a family. And in this case, the problem can so far be solved in this way. In the future, you will immediately tell your companion about your priorities. There are people who love to wash the dishes. Look for this))

  9. I think this is just an indication of some serious psychological problem (plus, possibly something related to medicine). The indication is indirect, but pronounced. Washing dishes is just her marker, nothing more! It’s not about washing dishes, but somewhat more fundamental. I have many attempts to give you advice. But I think that mononological answers (without dialogue) will not help. You need to find a person (possibly a psychologist or psychotherapist), with whom you can talk – in a dialogue! – about this theme. Most likely it turns out that there is some more fundamental problem behind this. But where to find such a specialist-I don’t know))) Look for it, somewhere he is … “The seeker and the sorting out!”

  10. You describe that (not) wash the dishes only for you. That is, you probably live alone? My friend, for example, lives alone, and at the same time washes dishes in a dishwasher. So she cares about herself. What not? .. I lived alone in the late 90s for a couple of years. True, it was a district center, a village, a house without sewage, firewood: firewood-warriors. The dishes were all the more lazy. The output is natural: all the dishes are unwashed with mountains on a separate table, and eat from the same unwashed plate. In wonderful pigs thirty with a small tail – the very thing. Bacheloric chic. It doesn’t soar. The rest and the rest of the apartment washed in reasons: when he called someone to visit. Well, from time to time, what would not be. No need to rape yourself. The plate can be cleaned with a crust of bread. Very tasty!)

  11. Let me share your suffering. We have to experience similar sensations – after all, how after eating, eating its aromas and amazing taste combinations – getting through the nose to the mountain of dirty dishes with the remains of food?!
    Can a normal person treat such a situation calmly? After all, his whole soul protests (resists) – it’s easier to go to the cafe and … read more

  12. Washing dishes, indeed, can be perceived very neurotically in the same way as neurotic in the office is the need to make a report in full form, or remake documents several times due to formal requirements, or prepare extracts according to a large number of issues. This is the work at the same time routine and controlled by some big other … Read more

  13. And why?
    Actually, dishwashers have long been invented)
    Try to understand – what specifically turns you so much? I would venture to assume that you are very squeamish. Other – lies in the field that is better to discuss a personally with a specialist.
    You are experiencing unpleasant sensations from what has not happened yet, and at least this is insulting. Judge for yourself – you spend your life on the bad … Read more

  14. 1. Contact the psychologist.
    2. Perhaps to the psychiatrist.
    3. I am not a specialist, I myself need him, but in my cockroaches I can say that in childhood one of the significant adults was not too pedagogical when I taught to clean up.
    4. Most importantly, in my opinion: optimize the use of dishes: for example, a sauce in a bank, first put the sauce in a plate with a spoon, then … Read more

  15. Let’s try to figure out your problem. I think that you are a creative person and hate routin. And, probably, you are an esthete. Harmony on the table, the beauty of dishes and devices are important to you. Yes, washing dishes – an unpleasant occupation. I also really do not like the kitchen, I understand you. In the student years, the problem of cleaning vegetables arose. I simply solved it: someone needs help with … read more

  16. This problem is solved simple. When they got married with his wife, they immediately bought a dishwasher. We also had no desire to do washing. Parents forced. The second option to buy one-time dishes, plates, cups, ate and threw it away. And the third is at once from a pan or pans. In any case, you can greatly reduce the process.

  17. If we talk specifically about washing dishes, and not about your attitude to it, there may be several solutions:
    – Buying a dishwasher
    – eating from disposable dishes
    – eating is not at home, but in coffee restaurant …
    – delegation of powers of washing dishes for a friend / acquaintance in exchange for a service or other material and intangible values ​​on your part
    -… Read more

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