Is it true that each person is subconsciously, spontaneously, reaches for a person like himself? If so, why?

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  1. If “… subconsciously, spontaneously, stretches …” = “experiences a feeling of more trust than other (not like yourself) and easier to come into contact” – it is quite likely (although not sure about the fact that everyone is directly “)) . Why? Because there may be a feeling of predictability of the behavior of another person and, therefore, security: “Mask, I know you!” Similar life values, a similar manner of making a choice, even a similar appearance can turn on the installation: “It is the same as I am – but I am good, I know myself. Therefore, there will definitely not be.” Well, and when communication will already begin , maybe in every way 🙂

  2. To whom I am drawn – this is the question. To the one in whom I anticipate the need for me. Well, yes, it means that it is necessary to coincide with some qualities: I have them, he has a shortage, but it is they who need them. For example, knowledge how to help yourself. Are I drawn to those who, on the contrary, have what I want to possess? Have I met those? No. Meeting if, be sure to reach for them. And they will certainly accept me.

  3. To whom I am drawn – this is the question. To the one in whom I anticipate the need for me. Well, yes, it means that it is necessary to coincide with some qualities: I have them, he has a shortage, but it is they who need them. For example, knowledge how to help yourself. Are I drawn to those who, on the contrary, have what I want to possess? Have I met those? No. Meeting if, be sure to reach for them. And they will certainly accept me.

  4. It is sometimes comfortable with such a person, most likely there will be common goals and mutual understanding, the opportunity to be on one wave. But it happens and vice versa- people begin to compete or miss each other. Depends on the degree of development, acceptance of oneself and the lack of extremes. Normally, you feel good and not like you (unless it is a tox or psychopath, it doesn’t happen well with them)

  5. If “… subconsciously, spontaneously, stretches …” = “experiences a feeling of more trust than other (not like yourself) and easier to come into contact” – it is quite likely (although not sure about the fact that everyone is directly “)) . Why? Because there may be a feeling of predictability of the behavior of another person and, therefore, security: “Mask, I know you!” Similar life values, a similar manner of making a choice, even a similar appearance can turn on the installation: “It is the same as I am – but I am good, I know myself. Therefore, there will definitely not be.” Well, and when communication will already begin , maybe in every way 🙂

  6. I will add to Elena’s answer that this mechanism is probably very ancient. It is necessary to choose a pair of their appearance so that there can be offspring. Anyone who looks like you is your appearance and offspring will be viable. Therefore, we are looking for a similarity with ourselves. We are attracted not only by similarity, but also by the difference. Men like women, and women of a man. Therefore, when choosing a couple, it is not a search for a partner like you, but a complex of requirements includes similarity and differences. And the similarity is required not precisely on you, but to the archetypal image of your couple. In this image, behavioral features play a large role. Therefore, I would say that we are attracted by people, the opposite sex, similar to the inner image of our couple. And in communicating with people of their gender, people of your appearance are attracted, which means similar to you and suitable for the formation of the community and joint activities.

  7. I will add to Elena’s answer that this mechanism is probably very ancient. It is necessary to choose a pair of their appearance so that there can be offspring. Anyone who looks like you is your appearance and offspring will be viable. Therefore, we are looking for a similarity with ourselves. We are attracted not only by similarity, but also by the difference. Men like women, and women of a man. Therefore, when choosing a couple, it is not a search for a partner like you, but a complex of requirements includes similarity and differences. And the similarity is required not precisely on you, but to the archetypal image of your couple. In this image, behavioral features play a large role. Therefore, I would say that we are attracted by people, the opposite sex, similar to the inner image of our couple. And in communicating with people of their gender, people of your appearance are attracted, which means similar to you and suitable for the formation of the community and joint activities.

  8. To whom I am drawn – this is the question. To the one in whom I anticipate the need for me. Well, yes, it means that it is necessary to coincide with some qualities: I have them, he has a shortage, but it is they who need them. For example, knowledge how to help yourself. Are I drawn to those who, on the contrary, have what I want to possess? Have I met those? No. Meeting if, be sure to reach for them. And they will certainly accept me.

  9. The problem is, what. A man is three -part. He has nature (answers the question: what?) This is what distinguishes a person from other creatures and from the creatures of the spiritual world. He has an individual (answers the question: how?), This is what people differ, vary among themselves . He has a personality (answers the question: who?), You can talk about personality separately. But your question concerns individuality. Individuality, as it is already clear, under no circumstances should be confused with the personality. Individuality is a measure or, if you want it is easier , a map of human inferiority. And this is understandable. Someone is more smart, someone less, someone has an absolute ear, and someone in the ear has come. Someone is sighted, someone is blind, etc. When I tell students that there will be no individuality in the Kingdom of Heaven, they are scared. And again I remind them that you do not need to confuse the loss of personality with the loss of individuality. Nothing happens with a person, I say, she is eternal. But pay attention to individuality! Even in this physical world, with whom is it good? With those who understand the world like us. With those who think how we are. With those who feel how we are. With those who understand us at a glance, from a half -look. with whom? With those with whom we are maximally erased by individuality. We are constantly looking for common interests, like -minded people. Remember? “Happiness is when you are understood” (c). That’s all to the topic of “erasing” individuality. The more “map” of our individuality is identical to the “map” of the individuality of another person, the more good, pleasant, comfortable, comfortable to us with him Moreover, we are happy next to him. And this already leads us to a conversation about the secrets of the Kingdom of Heaven. But this is a completely different story.

  10. It is sometimes comfortable with such a person, most likely there will be common goals and mutual understanding, the opportunity to be on one wave. But it happens and vice versa- people begin to compete or miss each other. Depends on the degree of development, acceptance of oneself and the lack of extremes. Normally, you feel good and not like you (unless it is a tox or psychopath, it doesn’t happen well with them)

  11. There are two options: the fisherman sees a fisherman from afar, it is attracted more often that the opposites are attracted, although not everything is so opposite, there are certainly some features that draws to such a similar. These cases can be very different: it is good if it is just an interest in unusual, curiosity, a craving for the best qualities of a person … But sometimes it can be like a temptation similar to obsession: like a desire to get drunk in a nightclub, try prohibited means and unnatural things, Test wild adrenaline on the verge of mortal danger. This is how some have an irresistible desire for some person, to put it mildly, not good, and can not stop them (because they themselves never learned to stop you). And the fisherman sees a fisherman-this is for people who know how to “see”; Especially who can see the soul with God’s help, more precisely – to see in the soul of another person the value that he himself already has.

  12. Of course, this is how it cannot be. Personally, I do not even understand the meaning of the question, because the answer is obvious. Here we will imagine, there is a homeless alcoholic. He sees the same homeless person and many ordinary people. That’s with whom will he go to the heating main? Probably with a young and beautiful girl? And the fisherman is passionate about winter fishing, with whom will he communicate? And the scientist historian will go to thump with marginals or gostorbayters from the construction site? I was engaged in a chess school in my childhood, and much later in the sports section. And it is surprising in sport. There were no chess players. And there were no gopniks in the chess. The answer is clear?

  13. Depends on what “for which” stretches. If for friendship, communication, affection, then yes, it usually stretches to such a thing, since similar to themselves is predictable, reliable, interesting interlocutors. But paradoxically, and stable couples in the relationship between partners (sexual), in marriage and so on, often give absolute opposites in character. Here a quiet, modest girl reaches for an explosive, mischievous guy, and a calm, quiet guy chooses a mischievous, energetic girl. And the more different they are, the stronger their union, because They a) always open a new, unknown to them in the partner, b) always receive a “stand” signal from the partner, if their own behavior becomes too “uninteresting”, “calm”. Thus, life becomes full of new impressions, discoveries, transformations. Another thing is if, after a long communication, such a “diametrically opposite” couple in a relationship does not begin to “become friends”, then such a union usually breaks up. “Too many impressions” is also bad.

  14. If “… subconsciously, spontaneously, stretches …” = “experiences a feeling of more trust than other (not like yourself) and easier to come into contact” – it is quite likely (although not sure about the fact that everyone is directly “)) . Why? Because there may be a feeling of predictability of the behavior of another person and, therefore, security: “Mask, I know you!” Similar life values, a similar manner of making a choice, even a similar appearance can turn on the installation: “It is the same as I am – but I am good, I know myself. Therefore, there will definitely not be.” Well, and when communication will already begin , maybe in every way 🙂

  15. I will add to Elena’s answer that this mechanism is probably very ancient. It is necessary to choose a pair of their appearance so that there can be offspring. Anyone who looks like you is your appearance and offspring will be viable. Therefore, we are looking for a similarity with ourselves. We are attracted not only by similarity, but also by the difference. Men like women, and women of a man. Therefore, when choosing a couple, it is not a search for a partner like you, but a complex of requirements includes similarity and differences. And the similarity is required not precisely on you, but to the archetypal image of your couple. In this image, behavioral features play a large role. Therefore, I would say that we are attracted by people, the opposite sex, similar to the inner image of our couple. And in communicating with people of their gender, people of your appearance are attracted, which means similar to you and suitable for the formation of the community and joint activities.

  16. I will add to Elena’s answer that this mechanism is probably very ancient. It is necessary to choose a pair of their appearance so that there can be offspring. Anyone who looks like you is your appearance and offspring will be viable. Therefore, we are looking for a similarity with ourselves. We are attracted not only by similarity, but also by the difference. Men like women, and women of a man. Therefore, when choosing a couple, it is not a search for a partner like you, but a complex of requirements includes similarity and differences. And the similarity is required not precisely on you, but to the archetypal image of your couple. In this image, behavioral features play a large role. Therefore, I would say that we are attracted by people, the opposite sex, similar to the inner image of our couple. And in communicating with people of their gender, people of your appearance are attracted, which means similar to you and suitable for the formation of the community and joint activities.

  17. To whom I am drawn – this is the question. To the one in whom I anticipate the need for me. Well, yes, it means that it is necessary to coincide with some qualities: I have them, he has a shortage, but it is they who need them. For example, knowledge how to help yourself. Are I drawn to those who, on the contrary, have what I want to possess? Have I met those? No. Meeting if, be sure to reach for them. And they will certainly accept me.

  18. It is sometimes comfortable with such a person, most likely there will be common goals and mutual understanding, the opportunity to be on one wave. But it happens and vice versa- people begin to compete or miss each other. Depends on the degree of development, acceptance of oneself and the lack of extremes. Normally, you feel good and not like you (unless it is a tox or psychopath, it doesn’t happen well with them)

  19. There are two options: the fisherman sees a fisherman from afar, it is attracted more often that the opposites are attracted, although not everything is so opposite, there are certainly some features that draws to such a similar. These cases can be very different: it is good if it is just an interest in unusual, curiosity, a craving for the best qualities of a person … But sometimes it can be like a temptation similar to obsession: like a desire to get drunk in a nightclub, try prohibited means and unnatural things, Test wild adrenaline on the verge of mortal danger. This is how some have an irresistible desire for some kind of person, to put it mildly not good, and can not stop them (because they themselves never learned to stop you). And the fisherman sees a fisherman-this is for people who know how to “see”; Especially who can see the soul with God’s help, more precisely – to see in the soul of another person the value that he himself already has.

  20. Of course, this is how it cannot be. Personally, I do not even understand the meaning of the question, because the answer is obvious. Here we will imagine, there is a homeless alcoholic. He sees the same homeless person and many ordinary people. That’s with whom will he go to the heating main? Probably with a young and beautiful girl? And the fisherman is passionate about winter fishing, with whom will he communicate? And the scientist historian will go to thump with marginals or gostorbayters from the construction site? I was engaged in a chess school in my childhood, and much later in the sports section. And it is surprising in sport. There were no chess players. And there were no gopniks in the chess. The answer is clear?

  21. Depends on what “for which” stretches. If for friendship, communication, affection, then yes, it usually stretches to such a thing, since similar to themselves is predictable, reliable, interesting interlocutors. But paradoxically, and stable couples in the relationship between partners (sexual), in marriage and so on, often give absolute opposites in character. Here a quiet, modest girl reaches for an explosive, mischievous guy, and a calm, quiet guy chooses a mischievous, energetic girl. And the more different they are, the stronger their union, because They a) always open a new, unknown to them in the partner, b) always receive a “stand” signal from the partner, if their own behavior becomes too “uninteresting”, “calm”. Thus, life becomes full of new impressions, discoveries, transformations. Another thing is if, after a long communication, such a “diametrically opposite” couple in a relationship does not begin to “become friends”, then such a union usually breaks up. “Too many impressions” is also bad.

  22. A similar, I think, should be the same approximately, social and cultural-educational levels, some common basic values ​​bring closer, give the ground for communication. But in terms of temperament/character/leadership, it is better to be different, then pairs, for example, the leader/led, choler/phlegmatic, talkative/silent, etc., will be optimal, otherwise there will be rivalry/volcano of passions/eternal battle or boredom ..

Spiritual values ​​above economic.?

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