How to understand the girl if she says that she is not physically ready for sex, although we have already been with us more than once?

We meet for two years, we still do not live together and there are no seals in the passport. I am 20 to be 18, we had sex for 4 months in a relationship, regular, and then subsided and now I have been like half a year without sex. Constant excuses (the head hurts, there is no mood, etc.), even when everything comes to the point that we are ready to go the next day and it is simply excited, they say, the parents arrived, there is no time or something else comes up with something else. Then he says fuck me now by correspondence, and after he is fucked up, he doesn’t like to leave, sex will only be after the wedding. Now she claims that he is not physically ready and I can’t understand what’s the matter (I already understood the hint of the wedding, that she clearly wants me to make an offer faster), but I don’t understand why she began to behave like that now, because before we had sex live, and everything was fine as it was now in a relationship. She did not change me and nobody she is not, she wants only me and I know that, she herself said about this one understands that it went wrong, I hope you will help dear women with the answer

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  1. Friends, in the absence of proximity, if you exclude diseases, always two reasons. This is either a decrease in interest in a partner or the use of proximity as an instrument of influence. But besides proximity, there should be other feedback. Understanding the interests of the partner, the manifestation of empathy will help to navigate and understand the desires of the partner. And then see what steps you need to take.

  2. Firstly, the term of 2 years is exactly the time when the hormones weaken and feelings should come to their shift! And or not – it happens in different ways! A girl is 18 years old – she only learns to communicate with men, checks the options for manipulation! You are with her for 2 years, she is 18 – she dreams of a beautiful sentence and a big wedding Not even understanding that it will be behind it further ! But I really want to! So you need a frank conversation, finding out how and what suits, what doesn’t, how does it want and how it does not want! And only you decide to continue to suit you all this!

  3. Firstly, the term of 2 years is exactly the time when the hormones weaken and feelings should come to their shift! And or not – it happens in different ways! A girl is 18 years old – she only learns to communicate with men, checks the options for manipulation! You are with her for 2 years, she is 18 – she dreams of a beautiful sentence and a big wedding Not even understanding that it will be behind it further ! But I really want to! So you need a frank conversation, finding out how and what suits, what doesn’t, how does it want and how it does not want! And only you decide to continue to suit you all this!

  4. While I read, there were several versions, but when I got to, “I don’t like to leave, sex will be only after the wedding.”, Most of the what was happening fell into place. The girl wants to marry and tries to put you up to her proposal, refusing you to you in sex. Roughly speaking, he is trying to convey to you with such behavior that the demo access, they say, is over, now first money, then chairs.

  5. Hello, young man! For two years now you have been caring for a girl and have not yet decided whether you want to be with her all your life? … Why do you then sleep with her? You are now at a crossroads, and behind it are three roads: you are still very young for marriage, and you have other plans for the coming years. You are probably not yet ready to marry at all. And she is ready. So tells you about it directly. Be too honest with her: if you do not intend to marry the coming years – tell me frankly about it. She will become free and will be able to adequately accept courtship of other guys. And she will have a choice. If you love her, give her the opportunity to find her happiness. (True, I did not see a word about love in your letter … ) You have doubts, uncertainty that this girl is your second half. But you really like it. In this case, continue to be friends, take care of her and check your feelings. She does not refuse to go on dates and take signs of your attention with you? Probably your intuition suggests that you still need to understand your compatibility. Think so far about how you need a person nearby and why. Talk to her about the future after the wedding: whether your general ideas, plans and desires will converge … The basic foundations of compatibility in pairs: you can read here Three Secrets … You intend to marry it, but there are objective circumstances that do not allow to do this now. Usually, these are measurable things in time and space. Those. They can be designated as the moment after which the wedding will be possible. For example: “Here I will end the institute, and we will get married” In this case we return to V.P 2 and continue to meet on dates. ________ You do not need to live together. Sex blurns the mind of a man and can lead you to the wrong choice of a life partner. (Unless, of course, you want to find her) As for the girl, she most likely realized that she had taken a premature step in an intimate relationship with a man, whoever he was. Probably, she came to her understanding that a woman should protect her honor and purity for her future husband, and not try sex, like entertainment … and this is worthy of respect in her. If a girl cannot behave worthy before marriage, then there are much more opportunities and excuses for free sex in marriage. This is a strong step for her, given that she was so young and has already surrendered to you. He probably wants to translate your relationship to another level of responsibility. Or do not waste in vain, if there are no serious prospects. I repeat – this is worthy of respect. She begins to think reasonably. But to decide on what roads to go, of course, to you. Brand yourself and be happy and loved! ___________ My articles about relationships can be read here: 7Yui Join our group in VK: Seatheistic

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