How does an unforgettable advice harm a person?

Today, probably everyone knows that the cottage of Soviets is considered unethical. Does this offend a person, humiliates, offends, or in another way harms a person?

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  1. From my point of view, the point is not in the character and size of the harm. It is just a council that they do not directly ask for, this is aggression, “adjustment from above.” *** There is nothing “terrible” in the very aggression and violation of personal borders. If we communicate quite closely, in business or personal relationships, then here, after all, any activity that is not agreed in advance against another – in fact aggression, invasion. We say “Hello!”, And a person in our thoughts, and we are distracting from them with a greeting from them. The seniority, if he (a) is not a baby (ka), may well identify his border. -or allow it to violate it (and this is the reinforcement of this kind of aggression for the future). *** But there are directly universal, typical, alphabetical behavioral manifestations of activity, which are perceived precisely as gross aggression. If a person hit another person with a fist in the face, then if this is not a sports competition with the agreed regulations, this is a hostile aggressive action. Yes, perhaps in response to the same blow, in response. But this is a clear hostile aggression. – Uninvited advice today are recognized by an increasing number of people as unambiguously “hitting”, an attempt to put their status above the status of the interlocutor. Although initially it is a variant of “passive aggression”, that is, implicit, covered by goodwill (or visibility, or sincere, when a person honestly tries to “catch up and cause good”). – Speech, as in the example of a sports fight, is not about situations when uninvited advice gives within the framework of its authority a really higher in the coordinated and adopted by both hierarchy. Boss, teacher, etc. *** What is the harm that someone tried to lower the status of another person? Depending on the entire context of the situation. From no, if the “enlightened” missed his ears or sent away. To the serious, if a person really agreed that his status was reduced, in the eyes of others and his own.

  2. From my point of view, the point is not in the character and size of the harm. It is just a council that they do not directly ask for, this is aggression, “adjustment from above.” *** There is nothing “terrible” in the very aggression and violation of personal borders. If we communicate quite closely, in business or personal relationships, then here, after all, any activity that is not agreed in advance against another – in fact aggression, invasion. We say “Hello!”, And a person in our thoughts, and we are distracting from them with a greeting from them. The seniority, if he (a) is not a baby (ka), may well identify his border. -or allow it to violate it (and this is the reinforcement of this kind of aggression for the future). *** But there are directly universal, typical, alphabetical behavioral manifestations of activity, which are perceived precisely as gross aggression. If a person hit another person with a fist in the face, then if this is not a sports competition with the agreed regulations, this is a hostile aggressive action. Yes, perhaps in response to the same blow, in response. But this is a clear hostile aggression. – Uninvited advice today are recognized by an increasing number of people as unambiguously “hitting”, an attempt to put their status above the status of the interlocutor. Although initially it is a variant of “passive aggression”, that is, implicit, covered by goodwill (or visibility, or sincere, when a person honestly tries to “catch up and cause good”). – Speech, as in the example of a sports fight, is not about situations when uninvited advice gives within the framework of its authority a really higher in the coordinated and adopted by both hierarchy. Boss, teacher, etc. *** What is the harm that someone tried to lower the status of another person? Depending on the entire context of the situation. From no, if the “enlightened” missed his ears or sent away. To the serious, if a person really agreed that his status was reduced, in the eyes of others and his own.

  3. I advise you to personally, the author of the question, not to assert the unknown;) Well, it was damaged? The uninvited advice itself – oddly enough, is written correctly through one “n” – it harms a person about the same as the buzz of a fly. This is not more. That is, in general it is unpleasant, and it can even be harmful to someone, but against the background of other harmful troubles it does not stand out much. If we do not cling to attention. We will catch on what to do. Why are we clinging?
    In this case, simply because the question is about it. Which, generally speaking, makes it at least partially useful.
    The topic for conversation, at least. Isn’t it? We will pay attention to spelling first. This is significant, because something speaks of a possible classification of tips. The question looks like all the tips can be divided into useful and harmful. And at the same time, the area of ​​harmful will contain a subset of the “uninvited”. And if you think about it, the concept of harmfulness can still be clarified, and thereby answer the question. However, thanks to the spelling verification program, we already know that it is “uninvited” advice, and therefore our classification method is simply obviously useless.
    For an answer; In general, it can come in handy. Now let’s pay attention to the meaning.
    When and why is the advice called uninvited? When no one asked him, isn’t it.
    Although yes, not quite so. Rather, when he was not asked by the one who is advised. Someone else could do this, but the right to the name still belongs to the addressee.
    Moreover, he can, if desired, reject the attempts of other people to judge the council, as if protecting him from the adviser. I hope that I more or less clearly expressed myself … Oh, why. Why more. This is a characteristic of the action. Not the advice itself.
    That is, not its content. The advice itself can be arbitrarily useful. And completely harmless. So you (not precisely you) could about the same success to give some useful thing or a million useful money instead of advice.
    Or hit the head with a bag. For the development of the mind. Inject the vaccine. Put a bunch of vegetables on the table. Put a delicious tangerine in your mouth. Install a reliable lock and alarm in the house. Drive the guests who are clearly boring to the sweet mistress. Change the old wiring.
    To protect against advice … This is a violation of the borders. What exactly is not so important. It may be more important if this image itself somehow motivates to accept. Makes unwanted desirable. It happens. One and the same advice can have different meanings – and even change it in the process of “advice”. From uninvited becomes very expected; And vice versa, oddly enough. Of course, the possible harm from the uninvited advice is slightly different from the consequences of strokes and stained tangerines. However, this difference is completely determined by two parameters: the advice is expressed in words to advice can be accepted – in culture or among “its own”. Consider a good deed.
    However, it can also be accepted to exchange blows. As a form of politeness. So, in fact, uninvited advice differs from other violations of personal borders only with a verbal form. Violation as a “fact” does not depend on culture and other specifics. Only the attitude towards him depends: someone likes it, someone considers the boundaries generally unnecessary … The verbal form is significant, if you are interested. The every word has the power of suggestion. His respondent, every advice (not only uninvited) can interfere with the person to act independently, study; Live “your” life, acquire “your” experience.
    Any advice implies recognition of the status of an adviser; Although it does not always mean a decrease in the status of the addressee.
    Both are rarely useful; And the useful content of the Council can always be conveyed differently.

  4. Uninvited advice is, firstly, the position of the parent, i.e. – The position from above. When a person speaks from a position from above, then it automatically forces it, everyone who hears it hears the adviser, as a more “terrible”. And if the receiving advice does not agree to the role from below in these relations, then he will see a message in such a gesture, the meaning of which comes down to, “I am smart, and you are a fool, I know better what you need.” In addition, such a condescending role in any In case of obsessively invites a person to participate in the triangle of Carpman. If a person agrees to be in a triangle, then he will either join the role of the victim and at the beginning will build himself helpless and in need of salvation, while often he will look for gospel prepositions in order not to follow the advice and ask the adviser to do everything for him, And then it can also go to the role of the aggressor in relation to the adviser, or for the fact that the adviser helps him little, or for the fact that the adviser advice did not live up to his expectations. Or the one who was given the advice, also by the triangle, will immediately go to the aggressor and send an adviser “on a hiking erotic trip.” Either the victim will want to send an adviser, but fearing difficulties and conflicts, they say thanks from politeness, thereby, outwardly, making it clear to the opponent that he can continue to be so, and inwardly it will save irritation to the adviser. If the one who was given the advice does not want to join in Triangle, he may say nothing like – “Thank you, I can handle it independently,” which, in essence, is healthy behavior, but given the specifics of the psychology of people who are accustomed to giving uninvited advice, you can note with the highest degree of probability that “not grateful “, from the point of view of the adviser, the answer is likely to offend the adviser. The way is: if a person does not want to bear the burden of the eternal rescuer and get in the end, or immediately discontent or aggression addressed to him, without much and even more sincere gratitude, then uninvited advice It’s not worth giving, because even if the advice is really good, then due to its uninvited, there is more chances that the one who is advised will feel resistance than can extract from Council benefits. And the one who is used to giving advice, as well, was waiting for gratitude for this, for which the one to whom the advice was given, due to the fact that the Council did not ask, did not sign.

  5. It harms as much as you yourself decided))) The advice is a puzzle that you are offered for a specific situation. Offered? Take it. Thank you. Take a closer look. If not suitable, put aside. What is the harm? And yes … if it doesn’t fit – try to twist it, turn it over (I’m talking about an idea that can be developed from a different angle, which may well flow out of this), will it come down? Passed or impenetrable … Here you can also arrange a polemic. Sometimes the brain is stupid so that it cannot ask))) I know by myself. How many, often we ask for a difficult situation. And do we ask for advice or self -pity? There is really something to think about.

  6. Firstly, the adviser steals the time of a person who is happy with him. Secondly, these tips from strangers or neighbors are always inappropriate. Thirdly, almost always the advice follows the action. (Another theft of time). Examples of tips from neighbors. A persistent requirement to use makeup. Then – an attempt to sell the “best in the world” cosmetics at the price of muissonites. Council to make a haircut. Then – a message about a beautiful hairdresser who will be tonsured for nothing. (Only braids will pick up). And there were many such advice. They did not react to the sign: “Please do not bother.” Only the police intervention helped. And such waves were 3. 1. The acquaintance and appearance. 2. Tips to let the tenants. At the same time, they even managed to give ads. 3. Tips to marry and search for grooms. Real harm. And for especially active advisers – too. They did not like the most delicate hugs of the police leading away from my door. They could not appreciate the beauty of bracelets. They were unhappy with the fine. There are such capricious people.

  7. It’s not about the Council as such, but in the moment, when, and how, and by whom he was given. If this mother advises a child which notebook to buy, this child will not be offended. The young daughter can also be slightly, as if by chance, advise to buy another The dress, on the example of your taste. He is the main thing to know the measure and not cross the boundaries of personal freedom of the choice of a person. Well, of course, it is better not to start from the words:-“I give you advice.”

  8. The question concerns precisely the uninvited council, and this is significant. Yes, uninvited advice can be perceived by those who are advised, in a negative way and push him to the opposite advice of the action: “Once you advise, I will do it in its own way, if only you do not think.” That is, some kind of anti-prophet of the meaning of the Council, and the uninvited advice is not guided by common sense “what is better”, but does “at the peak of the meaning of the uninvited council.” (This is an example of my daughter who flew out). And if you communicate with an open friend, Which appreciates your honest opinion, then there is never a feeling of “uninvited” advice- a friend hears, analyzes, agrees and thanks. And no awkwardness, accusations of interfering in cases, no odorous stones in the adviser arrives. Therefore, it is unambiguous to say about the 100%truth “the cottage of Soviets is considered unethical. This … harms the person” is not entirely true, it all depends on the time, the manner of filing an uninvited council and the perception of the adviser himself as a worthy/not worthy to give advice.

  9. Dear author of the question! You would have decided in your thoughts. What tips do you ask about? In the question itself, you ask about an unfinished council and you are already talking about an explanation to your question simply about the council. And these are completely different “tips”. A requested advice is one thing. An example of an uninvited advice: you are walking along the street, a passerby comes up to you and says that you are going in the wrong direction, it advises you to turn left (for example). You needed it? Just advice. An example of advice. You came to your doctor, the doctor prescribes you a medicine and, in addition, advise you to exclude you from your life this and that. Or you turned to a lawyer and he advises you to do this and that. Both options are tips. But you do not need the first option, but the second one is extremely necessary. Therefore, determine at first yourself-what tips do you ask about? But in fact, a smart person will always analyze the tips that they give him. Any. Among millions of supposedly unnecessary tips, rational grain on the topic under discussion will always be hidden.

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