Am I an adult for this?

I’m in the 9th grade. Mom and I sat and sorted out the issue of homework. When we began to argue with her in high colors, how to make it correctly. I was sure of my innocence and I told her: “Oh, mom, shut up.” She was very offended by me. She said that for such words she would give me lips next time. As a result, her method also turned out to be true, but I still think that in our time you can talk like that. In the end, we are already a completely different generation. And always one generation differs from another. But still I want to listen to other people what you think about this?

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  1. Are you an adult enough for such a children’s act? An adult is not the one who can. An adult is the one who takes responsibility for his actions. And I do what I want ”is a child’s behavior. Now you have the opportunity to lead yourself as an adult: take responsibility for your mother’s insult and apologize. By the time you described. What would you do if you were an adult? You would say something like this: “Mom, thank you for helping me, but now I want to try my own way to solve, and if I am wrong, it will be my own mistake Please, let me try, because nothing terrible will happen, sometimes you have to study on your own mistakes. ”A man who takes responsibility for his actions is respect. I still think that you can talk like that in our time. I think that the child never has the right to talk with his parents, even at 50. With senior in age or rank, subordination must always be observed. And the word “shut up” in a dialogue with any person is permissible only in emergency situations. Mom is kind, she will give her lips. And the man is on the teeth. Or will you only talk to those who are weaker – with your wife and children?

  2. In the end, we are already a completely different generation. And always one generation differs from another. I will tell you this way … Until the XV-XVI century, the heir to the throne is about your age, that is, having reached 15-16 years, became a king. Do you understand? )) He needed a regent only up to 15 years, and upon reaching this age he himself headed the state … And from that moment his mother turned to him only as “Your Majesty” and should, like everyone else, commit Knixen upon its appearance …)) And he, accordingly, at any moment he could give the order to chop off his mother’s head, and this order would instantly be executed … But to tell mom “Mom, shut up!” Neither the heir to the throne, nor the king can afford …)) He can chop off his head, but he can’t cheat. Male strength and self -confidence precisely exclude any forms of rudeness, because if there is no need for their rudeness … Next time, just replace this phrase with another “mother, I will do as I consider it necessary,” spoken by a calm voice. And even if the mother after that will walk on the ceiling, call an ambulance, or beat the dishes, just do it as you think it is necessary …))

  3. In the end, we are already a completely different generation. And always one generation differs from another. I will tell you this way … Until the XV-XVI century, the heir to the throne is about your age, that is, having reached 15-16 years, became a king. Do you understand? )) He needed a regent only up to 15 years, and upon reaching this age he himself headed the state … And from that moment his mother turned to him only as “Your Majesty” and should, like everyone else, commit Knixen upon its appearance …)) And he, accordingly, at any moment he could give the order to chop off his mother’s head, and this order would instantly be executed … But to tell mom “Mom, shut up!” Neither the heir to the throne, nor the king can afford …)) He can chop off his head, but he can’t cheat. Male strength and self -confidence precisely exclude any forms of rudeness, because if there is no need for their rudeness … Next time, just replace this phrase with another “mother, I will do as I consider it necessary,” spoken by a calm voice. And even if the mother after that will walk on the ceiling, call an ambulance, or beat the dishes, just do it as you think it is necessary …))

  4. How interesting you are raising the question! For some reason you are not interested in how much you are an adult at moments when you do lessons with your mother, being already a young man. And you want to justify the boorish behavior of adulthood. And how often do mom, being an adult, tells you to shut up? Does she have the right to this or not? Are you pleased to hear this word in your address? In conclusion, I will clarify that rudeness is not an indicator of adulthood. This is a recognition that a person of any age has a problem with communication. Ham lacks knowledge, skills to argue and defend his point of view. When he was rude, he admits that the verbal dispute is lost to them. And you should not attribute the exclusivity to his generation, giving him the right to rudeness. When you grow up, you yourself will abandon this teenage feature, with which you expand the boundaries of the permitted one.

  5. You can answer this way: “Yes, you have already become an adult,” if the criterion of growing up is the ability to rude to a person who loving you. And one can say differently: “So far you have not become an adult.” Since “growing up” begins from the moment of understanding their actions, are they in conflict with the neighbor. Growing suggests an increase in human qualities such as love, mercy, compassion. If a person has no strength to withstand the broken evil of his heart, he cannot be considered an adult. And rudeness is internal bitterness against someone else’s will that a person does not want to accept, and it is expressed in a feeling of anger directed against another. The inability to curb his anger speaks of human immaturity. Now, if you hadn’t shouted to your mother: “Shut up!”, But he would say: “I will probably consider both options,” it would be a truly adult answer. However, my mother had no special reasons for excessive emotionality: After all, it was eventually talking about your homework. She could eliminate and provide you with the opportunity to fulfill it yourself. But if you fulfill it with your mother, and not yourself, then, at least grateful to her for help and try to express this in a more or less decent form.

  6. Are I an adult enough for this? For this, what is it for? To answer “Oh, mom, shut up”? Or an adult for the consequences next time to get on the lips? Or maybe you do enough adulthood on your own homework? According to your situation described, there is no confirmation of your adult position. Of the 10, at least, the answer to show confidence in your rightness, for some reason you have chosen the rude option. Given your confidence in the normality of such answers to the older generation, then you are also not ready to bear responsibility for what has been said. In the end, we are already a completely different generation. And always one generation differs from another. As here you kiss the abyss. Yes, the generation is different. Yes, the next generation differs from the previous one. Communications in interpersonal relationships children study in the family and at school. And if you continue in the same spirit, you will have problems in communication not only now, but also at 35, regardless of the age of the environment.

  7. Hello! You can react as you consider necessary. But at the same time, they must clearly realize that one or another line of behavior will always have their consequences. This is called mature behavior. If it is customary to be rude in your family, to scold, not empathize, not think about the feelings of other family members – then the language can be unleashed even more, completely accepting the consequences in advance. Over, remember this dialogue with your mother. Better write down. And re -read when your children say – oh, parent, shut up. Sliding – not a sparrow. Reflect and extrapolate, live consciously. Life is not only now and today.

  8. Buddy, when a kid will tell you “uh, grandfather, shut up!” “You will be sure of your innocence, because you will understand which of you an adult.” This will happen soon, after 40 years, so so far rude to everyone, especially mom. Nobody asked her to give birth to you, wash your diapers and feed from a spoon to 9th grade)) ❤️

  9. The use of such vocabulary does not paint an adult. On the contrary, the older a person becomes, the more responsibly he should select words and expressions, be able to express the thought clearly and clearly, argue his position. The depreciation of the interlocutor is not a sign of adulthood, but rather a sign of an unstable psyche and a low level of development.

  10. I believe that under no circumstances can you raise your voice and all the more insulting those who taught you to speak! For the described case, it does not matter how ordinary and widespread the phrase used by your mother is. In this situation, it matters that the spoken phrase turned out to be offensive to her. You must consider this first of all. Bring your mother apologize and please her with something

  11. I think such a replica is embarrassing after grade 4, not because it is impossible to respond sharply and definitely, but because it corresponds to the worldview of a child for whom you can simply turn off the other as a gadget, and at the same time a novice teenager trying to build a hierarchy in a young flock, who has The right to make sounds, and who does not. Therefore, this is related to earlier stages of primates than adulthood. It would be correct to say: “You still have listened to all my arguments” or “You might think together if there is an optimal algorithm for solving such a problem.”

  12. Are you an adult enough for such a children’s act? An adult is not the one who can. An adult is the one who takes responsibility for his actions. And I do what I want ”is a child’s behavior. Now you have the opportunity to lead yourself as an adult: take responsibility for your mother’s insult and apologize. By the time you described. What would you do if you were an adult? You would say something like this: “Mom, thank you for helping me, but now I want to try my own way to solve, and if I am wrong, it will be my own mistake Please, let me try, because nothing terrible will happen, sometimes you have to study on your own mistakes. ”A man who takes responsibility for his actions is respect. I still think that you can talk like that in our time. I think that the child never has the right to talk with his parents, even at 50. With senior in age or rank, subordination must always be observed. And the word “shut up” in a dialogue with any person is permissible only in emergency situations. Mom is kind, she will give her lips. And the man is on the teeth. Or will you only talk to those who are weaker – with your wife and children?

  13. In the end, we are already a completely different generation. And always one generation differs from another. I will tell you this way … Until the XV-XVI century, the heir to the throne is about your age, that is, having reached 15-16 years, became a king. Do you understand? )) He needed a regent only up to 15 years, and upon reaching this age he himself headed the state … And from that moment his mother turned to him only as “Your Majesty” and should, like everyone else, commit Knixen upon its appearance …)) And he, accordingly, at any moment he could give the order to chop off his mother’s head, and this order would instantly be executed … But to tell mom “Mom, shut up!” Neither the heir to the throne, nor the king can afford …)) He can chop off his head, but he can’t cheat. Male strength and self -confidence precisely exclude any forms of rudeness, because if there is no need for their rudeness … Next time, just replace this phrase with another “mother, I will do as I consider it necessary,” spoken by a calm voice. And even if the mother after that will walk on the ceiling, call an ambulance, or beat the dishes, just do it as you think it is necessary …))

  14. In the end, we are already a completely different generation. And always one generation differs from another. I will tell you this way … Until the XV-XVI century, the heir to the throne is about your age, that is, having reached 15-16 years, became a king. Do you understand? )) He needed a regent only up to 15 years, and upon reaching this age he himself headed the state … And from that moment his mother turned to him only as “Your Majesty” and should, like everyone else, commit Knixen upon its appearance …)) And he, accordingly, at any moment he could give the order to chop off his mother’s head, and this order would instantly be executed … But to tell mom “Mom, shut up!” Neither the heir to the throne, nor the king can afford …)) He can chop off his head, but he can’t cheat. Male strength and self -confidence precisely exclude any forms of rudeness, because if there is no need for their rudeness … Next time, just replace this phrase with another “mother, I will do as I consider it necessary,” spoken by a calm voice. And even if the mother after that will walk on the ceiling, call an ambulance, or beat the dishes, just do it as you think it is necessary …))

  15. How interesting you are raising the question! For some reason you are not interested in how much you are an adult at moments when you do lessons with your mother, being already a young man. And you want to justify the boorish behavior of adulthood. And how often do mom, being an adult, tells you to shut up? Does she have the right to this or not? Are you pleased to hear this word in your address? In conclusion, I will clarify that rudeness is not an indicator of adulthood. This is a recognition that a person of any age has a problem with communication. Ham lacks knowledge, skills to argue and defend his point of view. When he was rude, he admits that the verbal dispute is lost to them. And you should not attribute the exclusivity to his generation, giving him the right to rudeness. When you grow up, you yourself will abandon this teenage feature, with which you expand the boundaries of the permitted one.

  16. You can answer this way: “Yes, you have already become an adult,” if the criterion of growing up is the ability to rude to a person who loving you. And one can say differently: “So far you have not become an adult.” Since “growing up” begins from the moment of understanding their actions, are they in conflict with the neighbor. Growing suggests an increase in human qualities such as love, mercy, compassion. If a person has no strength to withstand the broken evil of his heart, he cannot be considered an adult. And rudeness is internal bitterness against someone else’s will that a person does not want to accept, and it is expressed in a feeling of anger directed against another. The inability to curb his anger speaks of human immaturity. Now, if you hadn’t shouted to your mother: “Shut up!”, But he would say: “I will probably consider both options,” it would be a truly adult answer. However, my mother had no special reasons for excessive emotionality: After all, it was eventually talking about your homework. She could eliminate and provide you with the opportunity to fulfill it yourself. But if you fulfill it with your mother, and not yourself, then, at least grateful to her for help and try to express this in a more or less decent form.

  17. And as a representative of the “other generation”, you can say “oh, Mar Ivanna, shut up!”? I think you won’t say that. And you can say so to mom ??? It turns out unfairly. Do you respect the teacher more than your mother? Or you are afraid, but mom – no. Then “shut up” to mom is unworthy behavior that will not be punished. It is not worthy of the future man. Not only in the past, but also in our times!

  18. Are I an adult enough for this? For this, what is it for? To answer “Oh, mom, shut up”? Or an adult for the consequences next time to get on the lips? Or maybe you do enough adulthood on your own homework? According to your situation described, there is no confirmation of your adult position. Of the 10, at least, the answer to show confidence in your rightness, for some reason you have chosen the rude option. Given your confidence in the normality of such answers to the older generation, then you are also not ready to bear responsibility for what has been said. In the end, we are already a completely different generation. And always one generation differs from another. As here you kiss the abyss. Yes, the generation is different. Yes, the next generation differs from the previous one. Communications in interpersonal relationships children study in the family and at school. And if you continue in the same spirit, you will have problems in communication not only now, but also at 35, regardless of the age of the environment.

  19. Hello! You can react as you consider necessary. But at the same time, they must clearly realize that one or another line of behavior will always have their consequences. This is called mature behavior. If it is customary to be rude in your family, to scold, not empathize, not think about the feelings of other family members – then the language can be unleashed even more, completely accepting the consequences in advance. Over, remember this dialogue with your mother. Better write down. And re -read when your children say – oh, parent, shut up. Sliding – not a sparrow. Reflect and extrapolate, live consciously. Life is not only now and today.

  20. Buddy, when a kid will tell you “uh, grandfather, shut up!” “You will be sure of your innocence, because you will understand which of you an adult.” This will happen soon, after 40 years, so so far rude to everyone, especially mom. Nobody asked her to give birth to you, wash your diapers and feed from a spoon to 9th grade)) ❤️

  21. The use of such vocabulary does not paint an adult. On the contrary, the older a person becomes, the more responsibly he should select words and expressions, be able to express the thought clearly and clearly, argue his position. The depreciation of the interlocutor is not a sign of adulthood, but rather a sign of an unstable psyche and a low level of development.

  22. I believe that under no circumstances can you raise your voice and all the more insulting those who taught you to speak!
    For the described case, it does not matter how ordinary and widespread the phrase used by your mother is. In this situation, it matters that the spoken phrase turned out to be offensive to her. You must consider this first of all. Bring mom … Read more

  23. I think such a replica is embarrassing after grade 4, not because it is impossible to respond sharply and definitely, but because it corresponds to the worldview of a child for whom you can simply turn off the other as a gadget, and at the same time a novice teenager trying to build a hierarchy in a young flock, who has The right to make sounds, and who does not. Therefore, this is related to … Read more

  24. I do not believe in the sincerity of the issue. It seems to me that one who is able to ask such a question should be smart enough, to understand what depends on age and what is on education.
    If there were problems with upbringing and everything was held at child fear, then the age will play a large role, but there will not be enough real knowledge, and many will have such questions … Read more

  25. I am your age, but I do not ask for help with DZ of my clan☠. Type, do you have a sieve, friends, or your time for thought, did not have enough chtoli?
    Since you ask your parents help with DZ, you do not consider an adult, but a miserable teenager with maximalism, IMHO.
    Learn to solve your “problems” loser yourself
    And yes, ask your mother forgiveness, generation generations, but here is complete … Read more

  26. I was always mixed by people for whom the phrase “right away of the XXI century” or “we are already a completely different generation” is an argument at least something. For in fact there is simply nothing substantial in all this. And the fact that people do not understand this – does not speak in favor of their mind.
    As for “in our time you can talk like that”, then it is not clear why it is? In theory, rudeness is at any time … Read more

  27. You see, asking or accepting help from any person (by default from mom), be prepared for different development of help. And the dispute – excites and plumps emotions. I am sure that you did not want to offend the interlocutor, but the form in which you thanked for the help does not correspond to the content. Lucky that mom showed you the border, otherwise with others you can … read more

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